Fabic Blog

01 Apr

How can I get my child to take responsibility?

by Tanya Curtis Behaviour Specialist

There is a very big difference between being ‘strict’ and ‘teaching responsibility’.

Strict Parenting

Being ‘strict’ is where we tell people what ‘to do’ or what ‘not to do’ and offer ‘punishment’ when unwanted behaviours occur. This style of parenting results in a child (who later becomes an adult) making decisions on ‘fear’! That is, choices are based on not doing the wrong thing because they fear getting caught out, being reprimanded, making a mistake or even being corrected.

01 Feb

Perceptions and Re-Interpretations: How are they are harming our lives?

by Tanya Curtis Behaviour Specialist

All day every day we are sending and receiving messages from one person to another. Messages are being exchanged by all our senses based on what we:

see
hear
smell
taste
feel as a result of touch
feel through our awareness

For example, when we come into proximity of another person we are aware of:

01 Dec

Honour & Acknowledge vs Ignore & Bury

by Tanya Curtis Behaviour Specialist

Have you ever read the children’s book “Who Sank the Boat” by Pamela Allen? The basic gist of this book is that five animals decide to go for a row: A cow, a donkey, a sheep, a pig and a little tiny mouse. The question throughout is “WHO SANK THE BOAT?”

01 Nov

Smashed Pictures

by Tanya Curtis Behaviour Specialist

Smashed Pictures are one of our greatest forms of anxiety thus "Smashed Pictures" lead to all forms of behavioural deterioration.

Throughout each day we create “pictures” about the way we would like something to be. These pictures are simply the way: we expect something to be, want something to be, or think something SHOULD be.

Pictures are the images we create as to the way we predict something will be.

01 Oct

3 Simple Steps to Behaviour Change

by Tanya Curtis Behaviour Specialist

People often think that changing their unwanted behaviour is an arduous and sometimes seemingly impossible process. As a result people become identified by these unwanted behaviours and resign themselves to thinking “this is who I am”. The reality is there are only three simple steps required for behaviour change to occur.